The Unloved Epidemic

There is an epidemic of unloved, neglected, and abused people in this world. I personally think this has resulted in some being over diagnosed with mental disorders. And those who are being labeled have sort of created a lack of hope for a change in themselves. Now to be up front I am not a medical professional. This is going to be based upon my unorthodox style of research, observations surrounding social media communities, and basically not entirely focused upon a dsm. In fact, I am trying to avoid labels at this point because I think it dehumanizes those who are either disordered from birth, physiological disordered, disordered from environmental factors, or could be reacting to being around disordered individuals/family members. Ultimately, people are not their labels off of a dsm. Remember this if you are trying to help. Medical professionals can also be wrong as they are only human and can make mistakes.

Too often I see those with narcissistic personality disorder, post traumatic stress disorder or boarderline personality disorder viewed as unchangeable. There is honestly an attitude I feel in online forums, online support groups, YouTube, and social media echoing the same attitude towards those with these diagnosises. They seem to be viewed as evil, hypersensitive, or intentionally harming other innovent individuals in their lives. In my opinion this adds to a stigma around these specific disorders, creating a more difficult path for recovery. If society villifies those with disorders which are in rooted in fear of abandonment, rejection, and abuse, do we not add to the problem? Are we saying they are not redeemable, not able to change, and giving them essentially no hope? I think so. Is this toxic? Yes.

The truth is there are people who have some dsm criteria for a diagnosis but not all. Some of us may have half of the narcissistic traits listed, half of the boarderline traits, and a little ptsd. Some might have just some narcissistic traits and some signs of ptsd. If one were to look at the criteria and honestly think if they know someone or have been feeling that way at some point in their life: it becomes scarily applicable. I personally feel overdiagnosis is possible and could negatively effect how a person sees oneself. Plus, if the mind looks hard enough to find answers, the brain can overthink into labels. Some could be trying to fit into the label they were given causing more issues than they had to begin with. It is possible society might have too many people walking around convincing themselves they are in worse mental health than they actually are. This could lead to over medication or too many therapy sessions that could be interfering with weekly schedules. It’s not helpful in the end.

Regardless, I find it concerning to see videos, “health advocates,” online support groups, and even images with text being shared that vilify or do not have empathy towards someone struggling with a mental health condition. I think this is coming from issues deep rooted in the way we diagnose mental health conditions and also those who lack basic understanding of the human condition. I also want to point out however frustrating someone can be with a disorder and appear to be selfish, untrusting, or angry: intention is everything. I find fear and insecurity to be at the basis of a lot of reactions and feel it is more difficult than ever to build healthy confidence in modern times. Our American culture especially is built upon building confidence through unhealthy ways. I have to ask those who desire to help victims of disordered people: how can one help a person full of fear and mistrust by villifing the disordered person who affected them? It will create more anger than understanding of the abuser. And how can a victim move on while being in an angered state? Instead one should ask: how can we help the disordered, hurtful individual as well by villifing them? We don’t want more victims, right? So maybe having hope, empathy, understanding, listening and looking into their intentions and as to why would be a way to prevent further downward spirals. Yes, toxic behavior should be pointed out but by labeling someone unable to change, by making it seem as if they are always ill intentioned, are we not hurting those who are already hurting a bit more? I feel there are better ways to handle those who are in fear-based states of mind than what I see often from those I view as influential voices. Please I ask some “advocates” to really think about how they can influence a less anger-filled, and more empathetic view on mental health so survivors and abusers can both get better. Thank you for reading.

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